Monday, 28 June 2021

HOW TO OVERCOME PROCRASTINATION?

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HOW TO OVERCOME PROCRASTINATION?

How To Overcome Procrastination
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                                              Temptation of procrastination !


In this article, I share with my readers my learning on the subject, observation, inferences drawn and implementation in practical life. 

And as per my policy, I never try to advise or suggest anything related to medical issues to my readers. In such cases, obviously, medical advice is recommended.

What is procrastination - my understanding

Let me share one incident I experienced in my working days.  I was next to the in-charge of the section. My senior was expected to inform  all the concerned about one important meeting scheduled for the week end. I observed that he was simply postponing the process of intimating the concerned about the schedule of the meeting on some or the other pretext.  I reminded him twice about the urgency of the matter. But to no avail. Time was running out. And the inevitable thing started threatening him. He rushed to me at the eleventh hour literally begging me to help him out in the situation.  

I did that, of course.  But it was very demanding situation for me compelling me to work late in the evening prior to the meeting.

This all happened because of only one reason - my senior was procrastinating the important task in hand with some or other excuse. And I was the sufferer.

Incidentally I later learnt that this tendency of mind is known as procrastination.


What exactly is procrastination?

Procrastination is the tendency to avoid unpleasant or stressful tasks that are often very important and replace them with less important, less stressful tasks.

Is procrastination a mental illness?

Procrastination itself is not a mental health diagnosis.

Psychological studies often associate procrastination with reduced mental health, higher level of stress and lower levels of well-being.

Effect of procrastination -poor performance- consequences of financial situations resulted from procrastinating important decisions.

(Source : Goodtherapy.org)


HOW TO OVERCOME PROCRASTINATION?


Why do we procrastinate?

Because we feel the task to be undertaken is difficult, challenging and moreover the fear of facing failure. Who wants to face failure?

Here I would like to quote the interesting case of my close friend who in our college days got attracted towards a beautiful girl in his class. He used to share with me his feeling towards her and often expressed his eagerness to propose her. But he needed advice of his best friends (at that time myself).  I expressed my inability due to no knowledge in such matter. But offered him my considered opinion that if he truly loves her and thinks that she also loves him, then he should go ahead and reach the conclusion of the matter once and for all. 

But as it happens, he went on postponing the process of proposing her. Till completion of our graduation, nothing happened. Then as usual, we took separate route in our respective life. And after a gap of five years, when we happened to meet in person, I came to know that he had missed the bus. He never really proposed the girl. All this because what he did - he procrastinated the proposal process.

But this is what the hefty price one has to pay for procrastinating.

Well, procrastination does affect our life in this way also.  And there can be so many aspects of our life which are likely to be affected by our tendency of procrastinating. And we may not even be aware of that.

How we procrastinate?

By opting to get engaged in a lesser important task.

What is the main cause of procrastination?

It is my observation that basically procrastination indicates lack of self confidence, enough knowledge of the related issue as well as unstable mind.

This inevitably leads to reluctance to engage oneself in new or routine but challenging tasks for the fear of failure or embarrassment likely to be faced.

The effective way is to build up, maintain, and increase self-confidence and acquiring knowledge of the related task.

For this purpose, one must-
  • understand meaning and significance of supreme values of life- freedom, peace, love, compassion, truth.
  • understand the meaning and significance of polarities in life - truth and untruth, justice and injustice, moral and amoral, ethical and unethical, right and wrong and so on.
  • be able to make right choice while making decisions.
  • be able to pay attention not to the peripheral  but the central issues.

Having developed the above awareness, one can concentrate on the issues being tackled and also develop self-confidence while in the decision making process. 


Thus, one will be readily prepared to accept the consequences of the decisions taken. 

And there will be no fear of failure or any disappointment. As one learns from own experience.  

And this builds strong foundation to accept day today challenges and tackle the same effectively with full confidence.  

Having the attitude of being a mature,  strong and responsible person is also  significant.  


HOW TO OVERCOME PROCRASTINATION?

Based on my own experience, let me share with you - 

I ensured that I do understand the polarities in values in day today life mentioned above.

This step gave me confidence and enabled me to make right choices wherever it was time for me to take decisions.  

Having strong foundation of making right choices and making right decisions in life, I was fully prepared to accept the consequences of my own decision making in life.  

This led to no hesitation on my part.  In fact I am always very eager to take in hand the task expected from me,  work on it and complete it efficiently in time.

This also enables me to read the circumstances and take appropriate action.

If we try to understand what is life and the constraints we have to face, we cannot ignore the significance of time in our life.  

Then there will be no question procrastinating any task expected from us.  

Because time once gone is gone for ever - cannot be brought back to mend our decisions. 

What is your experience?  And will you suggest your effective method of avoiding procrastination?

Let me know.

Next time......

Tuesday, 25 May 2021

HOW TO WORK HARD WITHOUT GETTING TIRED

HOW TO WORK HARD WITHOUT GETTING TIRED

How To Work Hard Without Getting TIred

How To Work Hard Without Getting Tired
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In this article, let me share my own experiences as well as those of others, and the wisdom learnt therefrom while I was required to work hard without getting tired.

Application of this wisdom learnt enabled me to work hard for long hour without getting tired.


How do I stop being tired and lazy?

Change the mindset.  If we think negatively - oh, really I am getting tired - feeling lazy, we are bound to think and feel tired and lazy.

Instead we should think that we are eager to work hard - feel the energy and enthusiasm all the time - feel the vigor throughout the day.

Why do I feel so tired when I don't do anything?

It is said that man's quest is seeking happiness.  And for this purpose, every one is working hard to achieve the standard of living desired.  So much so that he often ignores small small happiness in the life - for example beautiful sunrise, birds chirping in the morning, children enthusiasm at the end of the school day etc.  And in such lifestyle, one feels tired, lacking energy at different intervals of time- say in the afternoon, especially after lunch, in the evening, in the night.

And one has to face the vicious circle of tired mind -tired body-overall tiredness-lack of energy.

HOW TO WORK HARD WITHOUT GETTING TIRED


Those were the days when I had to commute 4 hours to and fro daily attending my office. In addition to this I had to work 11 hours in the office. Though I was young at the time, I started getting feeling of intense tiredness. And this was natural.

During those days, a new tv channel started showing Yoga sessions, both in the morning and evening.  In the morning I opted for my 20 minutes routine of regular exercise. However, in the evening I opted for Yoga session watching the tv channel. 

The results were amazing. That intense feeling of tiredness  gradually vanished. This was obvious due to my eagerness in playing with my kids after returning from my office. And this is what I needed badly.  The regular Pranayam (breathing exercises) and Yoga helped me.

Now, thanks to UNO's recognition, International Day of Yoga is observed on 21 June every year.

But looking at the way it is observed, I often feel that the core topic is ignored by all and only peripheral things are being given importance.

I do not like giving importance to the peripheral things related to Yoga - eg. pay attention to wearing stylish dress, i.e. track suit, t-shirt etc., sport shoes, Yoga mat. Perhaps you will like to read my article - International Day of Yoga wherein I have shared with my readers the things I avoid while doing Yoga. 

HOW TO WORK HARD WITHOUT GETTING TIRED


How can I work long hours and not get tired?

This is the question one faces when feeling tired often during the course of a working day.  Especially those who have young kids waiting at home. 

It is said that when we put any efforts in even natural process like breathing, we get tired soon. For example, when we breath naturally, we do not get tired.  But while doing Pranayama, breathing vigorously make is tired very soon.  And we want to resume normal breathing. 

Therefore, first part of mantra is do not even think like putting extra efforts while working. Work in a natural rhythm. 

How can I work long hours and not get tired? 

Now remember an occasion when you spend hours in your favorite hobby, -like reading books, watching movies, conversing with your close friends.  
Engaging in sports make us get physically tired but we feel very much energetic.  And our mind and body both are rejuvenated. 

Because you are 100 percent involved. 

Therefore, the second part of my mantra is 100 per cent involvement in what we are doing.

Remember spending time with your close friend?

Or reading your favorite novel?

Or watching cartoon serials?

Or when you pray God with full devotion?

Or playing outdoor games? 

After finishing such activities, we realize that we are unaware of time, place and such worldly matters. 

We feel rejuvenated at body, mind and spirit levels.  

And we eager to engage in the next work at hand.

HOW TO WORK HARD WITHOUT GETTING TIRED


How can I motivate myself everyday?

After getting up in the morning, if we think even once to take leave for the day and take rest, this thought dominates our mind to such an extent that we really do take casual leave and spend the day resting.

Therefore, how we start the day right from waking up in the morning is deciding factor.

In my experience, how I get up in the morning decides the nature of my performance throughout the day. 

After waking up in the morning I avoid the luxury of spending time just lying in bed. I immediately get up. Sit on the bed only. Close eyes for a few minutes. And repeat the self affirmations in my mind. For example, 

  • I am healthy  
  • I am enthusiastic  
  • I am energetic  
  • I am fresh  
  • I am confident  
  • I am efficient 
  • I am involved 100 percent in my work  
  • I always give the expected result from my performance.


HOW TO WORK HARD WITHOUT GETTING TIRED

How can I boost my energy level?

Generally, for this purpose people opt for stuffing their stomach now and then.

It is very famous quote -  Eat Breakfast like a kindlunch like a prince, and dinner like a pauper-,  American author and nutritionist Adelle Davis.

In Ayurveda, it is advised to have mita ahaar - that means the nutrition must be balanced one - neither malnutrition nor excess nutrition both of which invite serious health issues.

Further, our diet should include six tastes, not in every food we have, but in rotation - namely, 
  • sweet 
  • sour 
  • salty 
  • bitter 
  • astringent 
  • pungent
Regarding quantity of food intake, it is stated in Ayurveda that it should be for satisfying purpose only and not for filling up the stomach.

We must remember that light stomach enables us to work hard.

The above observations and learning are really significant and useful in practical life. And one can experience that it boosts the energy level to a great extent. 

And finally, one should have strong will to work hard throughout the day.  

And implementation of the above wisdom, enabled me to work hard without getting tired. 

Your comments are most welcome !


Next time......... 




Friday, 21 May 2021

THE ASTONISHING EXPERIENCES OF MY APPLICATION OF MANIFESTATION TECHNIQUE !

THE ASTONISHING EXPERIENCES OF MY APPLICATION OF MANIFESTATION TECHNIQUE !

Amazing Technique of Manifestation

Manifestation
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What is the most powerful manifestation technique?


What is the 3 6 9 manifestation method?


What is the 555 method?


What are some of the manifestation techniques?


This is what everyone wants to know.

One more curiosity -

Does negative manifestation work?

Well, obviously it will not.  

In my view, negativity is against the nature. 

THE ASTONISHING EXPERIENCES OF MY APPLICATION OF MANIFESTATION TECHNIQUE !


Now, let me go into a few basic requirements -

    -Strong belief in supreme values of life- freedom, love, peace, compassion for every living being.

    -Strict follower of nature and natural laws.

    -Follower of non-violence - i.e. discarding  physical violence and violence by even thought process.

    -Ability to love all and being loved by all.

    -Being always positive. (Except medical tests, especially test for Covid-19)


Can we communicate with our subconscious mind ? How?

Yes.

For this, read my article on own experience - What about training the subconscious mind?

In this article, however,instead of going in to the academics of the term manifestation technique, I have preferred to share my own understanding and application of the same which has given me astonishing results in my life. 

And I really cannot stop myself from doing the same.  Because the same can be helpful to all my ardent readers all over the world.

THE ASTONISHING EXPERIENCES OF MY APPLICATION OF MANIFESTATION TECHNIQUE !


Let me share my experience in the subject matter  with due respect to my own privacy.

As mentioned earlier, violating natural laws one cannot expect desired results of this amazing process of manifestation technique which basically communicates to our subconscious mind. And as is well known, it is our subconscious mind that bring into reality what is impressed on it. By way of thinking often, visualizing the resolution done as completely materialized our subconscious mind is impressed and starts believing the resolution as reality. And this enables bringing together all the forces of universe active in the form of vibrations to help materialize the resolution done.

While deciding on the method, my attention was to select the timing - and I learnt through my hobby of reading many books on the subject that just 5 minutes immediately before going to sleep in the night and after getting up in the morning is the ideal time to communicate with the subconscious mind our resolution we desire to be materialized. 

Apart from this, any time when we are in relaxed mood, say after lunch, tea break in the afternoon etc. is also suitable for the purpose.

While thinking the aspect of impressing the subconscious mind, I decided to use God given five sense organs in the process.

And the basic need is to follow the natural laws and expectations of the mother nature i.e.

  • to respect freedom peace and love for every living being,
  • make all the possible efforts so that God shall express through us,
  • feel happiness,
  • express happiness,
  • share happiness 
  • have no doubts in mind about the effectiveness of the technique.
  • to apply the technique with 100 per cent conviction.
and so on.


THE ASTONISHING EXPERIENCES OF MY APPLICATION OF MANIFESTATION TECHNIQUE !

Apart from this, to follow the rules mentioned by  Maharshi Patanjali in his Ashtanga Yoga Sutra in Yama and Niyama, the first two steps. (See my article :  How to learn meditation at once?

Remember, if we want to achieve some thing, we must ensure that we are qualified for the set goals.

For example, if the manifestation is regarding deep desire of having a sweet grandson my technique of manifestation which gives  amazing results starts in the following steps -

    -Sit in a relaxed position

    -Eyes closed

    -Take deep breath for three times

    -Praying for good health, peace of mind, fulfillment in life and prosperity of every living being.

    -Expression of gratitude for whatever I have and I am

    -I see the image of my grandson/granddaughter (for this I have already seen images on the internet of the just born sweet lovable kids)

    -I can hear the soft cry of the new born baby, perhaps for drawing attention of the mother.

    -I can see the baby being brought near me and feel the strong desire to breathe in deeply the baby's scent. This is the same feeling when I see beautiful flowers -to breathe in their fragrance.

    -The taste of baby skin lingers on my tongue.

    -I cannot resist my urge to kiss the baby's soft and moist cheeks. I enjoy touching the baby cheeks.

    -I think to myself yes, I have a very sweet, enchanting, smart grandson/granddaughter.

    -The baby is observing me for a long duration and  suddenly starts crying loudly.

    -I get scared, looking at my daughter in law, I ask - what happened? why the baby is crying.

    -Because the baby wants to sleep. 

    -I realize that the mother of the new born baby is the best person to state what the baby wants to communicate. And she is not only natural listener but the best interpreter also.

    -It is the reality - I have a lovely and attractive first grandson/granddaughter.

    -I feel grateful to see my desire fulfilled.

    -I express gratitude.

    -I pray every one's desire is fulfilled in the same way. 


Dear readers, In the above example, I have explained the technique I applied in details in a generalized manner and not specifically related to me or my grandson/granddaughter.  

I must say here that the above technique was applied by me on seven different occasions spread on a period of last eight years. And this has given me amazing results, i.e. to say +100% desired, for which I am grateful ever.

I hope this article will prove helpful for any one desirous of positive things at different stages of life. 

I wish Good Luck !


Next time...... 
    

     

 

 

 

















Saturday, 2 January 2021

HOW DO YOU ENSURE PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?


HOW DO YOU ENSURE PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?

This is a typical question you must have contemplated seriously at least once in life.

What is a peaceful death

Most of the people are scared of death.  You and me - no exception, right?

Every body wishes to live longer or rather an eternal life.

The question regarding our own death starts haunting us - like 

  • how 
  • in what form
  • will it be natural or accidental
  • whether we will be bedridden for a long period before welcoming own death. 
Such contemplation is but natural due to the  concern for our own loved ones, dear ones,  dependents, spouse, children, property, wealth and so on.

WHAT IS PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?


Peaceful Own Death

PEACEFUL & SERENE 


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Is death peaceful process?

Generally, peaceful death implies -

  • the dying person settles all the transactions related to the material world satisfying every one
  • manner of dying - dying without pains, preferably in deep sleep, having not to live bed-ridden for days, or any accidental and painfully violent death


HOW DO YOU ENSURE PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?


The next question comes to mind is -

IS PEACEFUL OWN DEATH POSSIBLE?

Well, as is known, death is very uncertain, unpredictable. 

No body has been able to claim to have peaceful own death only. 

But if asked, every body will, after initial hesitation, express his desire for peaceful death.

And our inner most desire is, if death is inevitable, then let it be peaceful. At least painless.

But the definition  of own peaceful death varies.

For example, one concentrates on how to have peaceful death having settled every thing related to the material world.

HOW DO YOU ENSURE PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?

Such people try to make all possible arrangements- like preparation of will in time, lay down preferences for the last rites to be performed, ensuring proper disposal of their material property etc.


At the same time, some try to take care of post-death arrangements- like type and place of last rites to be performed, whom to invite and so on. 

In short, what one thinks important, pays attention to that aspect of death.


But  the kind of death is totally different matter.

And every one wants natural, peaceful death, preferably while in deep sleep.

No body wants to get bed-ridden waiting for the last relief, wasting days and troubling others by lying in coma etc.

No body wants painful death. And it is natural also.


HOW DO YOU ENSURE PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?


And when we observe wide spectrum of forms of death, we some time wonder what could be the eligibility criteria  for peaceful own death.

And inevitably it is found that there is no such criteria at all. One can only pray and hope for peaceful own death.

I remember people used to remark about death in the neighborhood - oh, he/she was a great and pious soul, even preferred to die in the evening thereby ensuring that people could have their lunch at proper time.

And the Hindu religion’s concept of karma (action of merit) inevitably comes to our mind. Do good karma and every thing will be fine.

And there are concepts of hell and heaven in almost all the religions.

And thus at the advance stage of ageing,without fail, one  recalls the good and bad karmas in own life and the likely consequences of the same to be faced.

But we must understand that simply worrying and having fear of own death is not going to help us. Life takes its own course. And no body can predict it.

They say cricket is game of glorious uncertainty. But the inevitable death is more so.  

Then what to do?

Let me share what I think and do.

We should not be afraid of ageing. We must acknowledge and accept the fact that it is a part of life cycle - taking birth, growing, procreate,  survive and perish.

As is well known, death is our old faithful friend that liberates us from all the worldly suffering.

And we will be fortunate if our life is a typical one - timely birth, growth,procreation and perish.


HOW DO YOU ENSURE PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?


HOW TO PREPARE FOR A PEACEFUL OWN DEATH?

Let us remember, one always desires to see birth of own children, grand children. This is human nature. The desired extension goes on.

And the belief that good karma leads to good results is logical. Action and reaction is equal.

After all, mother nature ensures that every living entity takes birth, flourishes, procreates and perishes. No one can interfere in that process.

Therefore, one must live life -

  • which does not trouble others,
  • is full of love and compassion for every living ones, 
  • having a perfect normal health, helping others in whatever means possible.

And more important, we should ensure our own peace of mind in the present by not worrying often and much about the form of death we are going to embrace in the future. Its beyond our own control.

And we must prefer to address our own death as a true friend and not an enemy.

Because death liberates us from all the  suffering. 

What do you think?

Comment please.

Next.......

Saturday, 19 September 2020

ARE YOU HONEST?

ARE YOU HONEST?


No, I am not asking you.  No offence meant, please !

Also, nobody asked me this question.  

And I am a layman. Therefore, no chance of having the honor of being interviewed. 

And yes, I opted for honesty.  

But nothing wrong If I would like to share my own attitude while deciding on the issue and of course my final decision. 

Being honest, do you expect some thing in return?

However,  I ensured I had had enough time at my  disposal to contemplate on the subject.  This is because when one decides to look into a certain matter that is going to have serious impact on own life, one does it sincerely and seriously. 

I mean in that case, one is not trying to prove some thing to some one else. And therefore, there is no  mask.  Hence I could engage myself in the task quite seriously and sincerely too. 

Are you a honest person?

Are You Honest?

ARE YOU HONEST?
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How do you say you are honest?


What it means being honest?

What are the characteristics of an honest person?

All know very well, honesty is the best policy.  
How would you describe an honest person?

How would you describe an honest person?

Briefly it means our thinking and attitude should match with our actions in daily life. Honesty is complying with the supreme values of freedom, truth, love and compassion.  And this should come out of our own attitude selflessly without any vested interests or fear of the consequences thereof.  

But in reality, very few people are in a position to be honest.  And are really honest.

And the rest give in to the compromises of convenience, comforts and temptations at the cost of values in life. But we must not ignore the fact that honesty promises ideal life and peace of mind. 


What prevents us from being honest?


Temptation of shortcuts, comforts, luxury, wealth, and desire to fulfill our insatiable desires.

We may come across those who yield to the temptations and compromises for shortcuts to success in life trying to justify their attitude in life.  

But are they really having the feeling of fulfillment in life?  

This is the important question.

Is It Worth Being Honest?



And such compromises do lead to downfall in the life. This defeats the very purpose of life. Because one has to raise his status in life - moral, financial, social, family, personal.  The mother nature expects us to grow, flourish and ultimately merge into the infinity.  

But still we do yield to the temptations. It is human nature.  

Of course, to repent later.  

We simply do not want take cognizance of the life values. We just want to ignore them. In that process we tend to ignore the fact that honesty is the foundation of good character. It is for this reason that an honest person is given good respect in society.

The other option is just live the life as it comes and vanish, like so many animals. But we should not forget we are human being.

The occasion was sort of self analysis I was engaged in in a sincere manner. This is the phase in  life when one starts to take life seriously.  And not only philosophically.

Like so many others, I had opted for honesty in life. And I wished that this honesty does not come out of my weaknesses.  And that I would have preferred if it originated from my strength, ability. And I knew very well that this may even  cost me sacrifices of my personal liking and desires.

And this was not all of sudden. The base for that was my chosen, accepted and imbibed values in daily life.

Is Being Honest Rude?


Not at all.  If only we fail to observe the accepted manners in our social interactions, this likely rudeness is avoidable.

Being God-fearing, fulfilling all obligations - individual,family,social,legal,statutory all these have contributed to my being honest person no doubt. 
But this has more to do with being a common man. I have nothing to say about my wealth,my influence on others,my own limitations as a common man etc. For example,I take care to file my income tax return in time,timely payment of municipal taxes,water bill,electricity bill, keeping handy Pan Card,Adhaar Card, Election Card,along with their photo copies, maintaining my bank account, pension account,KYC formalities and so on.  So many obligations !  Some times, I do wonder why I have to spend so much time in all this exercise.
I must admit there is more of fear in this than inclination towards honesty. Who wants to create problems and then worry to settle such issues? Well, you may call this as a typical common man.  And yes, I am a common man.

Are You Honest?


But yes,in spite of all this I have great pride and  self respect being honest.
The reason is my own sarasar vivek. What I value the most in life play greater role in my life. The power of discretion which enables me to understand what is right and wrong, good and bad,normal and abnormal, justice and injustice,moral and amoral,social and antisocial, ethical and unethical and so on.
Having acquired this knowledge, I am able to make right choices while making decisions in my own life. My sarasar vivek leaves no scope for repentance for me which is most important to any body  listening to his own sarasar vivek.
Because mere knowledge is useless unless it is implemented in day today life. This is the only way to make life easy, comfortable and yet meaningful.
And therefore my conscience does not blame me and I always have peace of mind.
And when I apply my sarasar vivek, the choice of opting for honesty is obvious, logical and fruitful also. 
My dear readers, what was the deciding factor in your decision to  opt for honesty? Please comment, if you would like to share with me. Thanks.


Next time.......

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